Crash course in men sexual functions: your top concerns addressed
By talia amour
I’ve been told 80% of solving the challenge is creating awareness around it. what you see, you can influence or control. What you don’t see or understand has the ability to influence and control you.
It’s important to note that when referring to sexual peak we are referring to the peak of biological function, not your capacity for experiencing satisfaction or pleasure.
Men have their sexual peak in the later teens: referring to the peak time of the flow of hormones. (For women the peak reproductive time is in their thirties)
In 1999 jama released a study on sexual dysfunction it change the way that we speak openly about sexual functioning it was the birthing of Viagra and then came Cialis and Levitra used for maintaining an erection for men. This was all well and good for maintaining an erection but it did not take into consideration the other aspects of male sexual functioning. Sexuality and sexual function includes
In coaching we prefer to use the terminology breakdown or concern vs. Dysfunction. I always recommend getting your annual check up and blood work done to rule out any biological factors that may contribute to your sexual concerns.
Here are the top sexual concerns of men:
Low desire: oftentimes low desire has to do with not having enough energy/being exhausted; low testosterone; side effects from certain medications. It’s best to eliminate physical possibilities first; see a doctor to rule out low T and other biological issues.
Hot tips: reframe self-talk, work on increasing self-esteem, get additional education, get enough rest at night or take a nap if possible. Monitor intake of caffeine, sugar and other stimulants that could lead you to ‘ crash’ hours later
Early ejaculation: Sometimes men become aroused very quickly. They are unaware of each phase therefor lack the ability to control it. Often times you need to learn to tolerate pleasure. most of the time these men hurry in all aspects of their life. they often tend to be very type-a personalities. .
Understand that orgasm starts before the ejaculation. The ejaculation is a physical response to the orgasm or orgasmic energy flowing through the body.
Another culprit could be sexual patterning: such as trying to ejaculate quickly in order to ‘not get caught’ (think masturbation) or trying to ‘hurry up and finish’ in fear that the partner is not truly enjoying the experience.
Hot tips: Learn to slow down and experience the pleasure of the moment.
It’s important to take the judgment out of the challenge: reframe ‘early’ with ‘trying to control the release’ of ejaculation.
Try to focus on pleasurable Sensations through out your body not only in the genital region, ride the waves of pleasure or in other words ‘tolerate’ pleasure.
Get to know the “sexual respond cycle”and the signs of each phase. (These were originally defined by masters and johnson in the 50′s: excitement, plateau,orgasm, resolution )
Find your ‘tipping point’ or ‘point of no return’ recognize when the inevitable moment of ejaculation occurs in order to control the release.
There are many tantra techniques dedicated to this specifically,(ask me for more details it’s my speciality!) like the breathing squeeze, pressing at the base of the cock or at the frenulum. there are also certain devices like cock rings that could be useful, (I’ve even heard of extreme cases where antidepressants prescribed by a doctor).
A great resource is the book multi orgasmic man by Mantik chia.
If the spiritual aspect is too far out I suggest checking out the video, the maxwell multiple climax. The techniques are explained by a man, in a man words and in non-spiritual terms. The video as entertaining as well as educational.
Delayed ejaculation: often times they’re experiencing energetic orgasm/pleasure without releasing the ejaculation or ejaculating after they’re experiencing the energetic orgasm. There can be a few biological reasons this could happen: if you have had prostate surgery it’s possible that they may not have much ejaculate fluid to be released, there is also such a thing as reverse ejaculation ( where the fluid goes into the bladder instead of coming out of the penis) It’s important to rule out biological issues first! (Rare concern, I have seen twice so far, if you feel like you’re about to ejaculate and urine comes out instead: seek medical professionals help sooner than later. this could be an issue with the prostate. biologically speaking you are not supposed to be able to urinate while the penis is erect there is a valve in there that prevents this from happening in normal function)
* Men who only have this challenge with a partner need to address trust issues and relationship dynamics that are affecting their sexuality. (Sometimes therapy is necessary for people to work through their trust issues before they can appropriately address their sexual concerns.)
People experiencing delayed ejaculation often are having issues with controlling their ejaculation it often can have to do with a fear of letting go….again trust issues.
they may believe they are losing some sense of self or sense of control. They may not feel safe enough or trust their partner enough to let go and experience pleasure.
Hot tips: It is important to cultivate a feeling of safety and Trust so you can merge with your partner and experience orgasm. Explore concepts of intimacy and values.
Seek therapy if there have been traumatic experiences that are affecting your sexuality at present. Remember coaching is about being present and moving forward; therapy addresses the past in order to become present. Reaching out for help as a sign of strength.
Sexual inhibitions and social/dating skills deficit: being ‘shy’ or scared to try something new; lack of experience or if you have had a disruption in your sexual development that has inhibited you from experiencing sexual pleasure or developing a sense of own sexual self. You need to understand the unconscious messages you are telling yourself and that the outside world has told you. Often misconceptions or misunderstanding that you have come to believe are ‘true’ may not be the ‘truth’.
Hot tips: consider an idea that you think is the ‘truth’ is not….such as the common misconception ‘women don’t enjoy sex’ the truth is that women do enjoy sex….another one may be that you think you are not a good enough lover, the truth is that you are good enough but maybe you have some techniques to learn or growing to do to reach your potential or ideal self.
reframing critical self-talk an continue learning and exploring your sexual self.
We often ‘idealization’ or ‘objectify’ and need to ‘normalize’ and see people as people.
Reduce the amount of time watching porn and get experience in the real world. Learn new communication skills. Know that porn can be a great addition to healthy sexual experience. But porn only captures the highlights and extremes, they are actors performing for your pleasure and enjoyment. In real life your sexual experience is not a performance and you will have to participate in all of the scenes before,in between and after, that are not shown on your favorite video.
Body image issues:Men often have body image issues just like women do: too fat, too thin, loosing your hair, aging…..one of the number one concerns is penis size! (the average penis is 5 and a half to 6 inches in length and usually around 4 inches in diameter. the majority of women will tell you that the girth is more important than the length. the flaccid penis is usually much smaller than a fully aroused and erect one)
Hot tips: focus on being healthy! Cut out sodas and fast food. Get at least 20to 30 minutes of exercise 5-6 days a week.
Find additional ways experience pleasure beyond penetrative sex, such as using your hands, mouths, toys or your mind by fantasizing.
Penis enhancers are available. there are toys, herbal supplements (and in extreme cases surgery and implants). there could also be the elements of just accepting your body and loving it yourself as you are.
Happy holiday season 2016
It’s great to be back in Florida the weather is beautiful and we are enjoying the upgrades at my in call!
I’m still hitting the gym and eating my plan but I’m definitely getting to enjoy the goodies I’ve been baking…
I plan on spending much of the holiday season and the Tampa Bay area if you’re visiting Orlando or Sarasota or even Naples shoot me an email it’s close enough to where I can definitely plan a visit if you are unable to visit me in Tampa.
My girlfriend and I have been experimenting with sensual domination we have lots of fun things to share with you
I also I’m getting a renewed interest in sex coaching lots of people asking about early ejaculation to challenges having an orgasm. I will do a separate blog post on each of the topics so stay tuned. I also offer coaching sessions over the phone or via Skype if you have some questions or areas of interest you would like more information on.
I’m excited to connect with you and celebrate the season don’t forget to keep an eye on my summer selfie gallery I’ve been adding pictures for your enjoyment
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On a more personal note….2016 has been an interesting year…I have gone back and forth about writing this post but I am at a point where I am ready to share the years recap up to now.
My mother passed away unexpectedly in March of this year. It seemed like the year was in full swing. I was planning trips and planning shows…but right in that moment everything was different.
I have taken the last 7/8 months and really evaluated my life. There have been ups and downs in the grieving process. I did not see as many clients/friends/work as much. I have really gotten to spend time with myself and my family. I wanted to take a moment to thank you personally: my friends I met this year and my long time friends. You have been patient with me, shown compassion. Your kindness has not gone unnoticed.
I have had more good times lately, than sad. I have gotten to experience some closure around my mothers passing. I’ve been working out, posting more seeing more of you! I even competed in a competition this month and won!
Life has an interesting way of reminding us that we are not always in charge of what happens but we can determine how we are going to move forward. Sometimes it’s important to take some time for selves to re-center and rejuvenate I’m happy to share with you that I got to take that time and I am absolutely feeling re-centered and rejuvenated!
I have some pictures to share with you and a few travel dates before the year’s end.
I am looking forward to celebrating the holiday season with you and bring in a new journey in 2017!
Remember to tell the people that you love that you love them and also remember to love yourself first and take that time so you can truly enjoy the time that you have with others all we have is this moment
Ps I love my flowers!
Visiting New Jersey November 3-14 2016
I hope you are enjoying the new selfie album on my website
I have a few more to add here is a teaser for you
Or in my home state Florida
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Visiting New Jersey November 3-14 2016
New selfie gallery alert!
I have taken so many pics the past few months I wanted to share them with you in a gallery on my
Hope you enjoy…see anything you sent me???
Thank you to the many who sent birthday wishes and gifts! You sure know how to make a lady feel special and feel sexy!
Click the link to check it out:
Summer selfie gallery 2016
New Jersey nov 6-13 2016
Based in the Tampa Bay Area
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Keep it simple sillyFrequently I get emails with basic questions answered on my website
Here are a few tips to make connecting as simple as possible
1. Do not call me or text if you have not emailed me and I have completed your verification and asked you to call. (*only if we are all ready friends, may you call or text)
Imho: I am very concerned that some just call at random a lady such as myself with no notice or verification. I can not control what is written on websites that are not mine.
I ask you read my website and follow the process I use to see me.
Each lady is different, respect each of our process’.
I prefer privacy and discretion just as much as you if not more.
where are the donations?
In the experience page:
Select the experience you are interested in such as companionship and entertainment
Want to know about sacred sexuality coaching over the phone or Skype donation? Select coaching on the experience page:
You will find a ‘back’ button to go back to main experience page or simply select experience on the menu to go back
The question is basically entertainment and companionship or
Education: coaching via phone or Skype (sacred sexuality coaching and education)
A blend of the two in person? Choose companionship for donations. let me know what your sexual concerns or areas of interest you are having so I have something to talk to you about during our time. This is a fun vibe that allows you to learn or experience something new in a non judgmental and collaborative way.
How do I make a reservation?
Use the reservation form or simply email the information requested on the form.For most immediate response please include all of the verification information needed to move forward. You will find a ‘book a date’ button through out the site-this is the secure reservation form
Please be sure to read the reservation page
The reservation page answers many questions about my availability and the process of securing our date.
Are you new to the hobby?
Fill out my ‘booking’ form that is linked to the blue ‘booking’ button on many pages of my website. If you do. It want to fill out the form send all the requested info to my email@example.com account.
I need real name, age and work info and possibly a drivers license to confirm identity.
You may block out personal info from the ID I just need to confirm you are who you say you are.
Imho:If you have overwhelming concerns about giving me verification information I suggest you rethink your wanting to see me. It is a sign to me that danger is ahead when you value your own privacy and safety to the detriment of mine. I often wonder why do you want to see someone that would want to verify you? That’s your red flag my friend:not asking for verification info.
Are you new to me?
P411 is easy: send me the reservation request via p411 it’s has all information needed to complete verification and date requests.
Not p411? Email me your most recent provider references and your TER and or date check id’ with reservation date and time request, and length of date requested.
Experiences and donations:
I do not offer ‘services’ we creat an experience together. You are donating for time only! If you email me and ask me about ‘services’ you will not get a response. If you email or text me disrespectful or crass conversation I will not see you. We can have a more colorful conversation once we meet and get to know each other more…the more of a connection the better our time together. Be honest, be yourself, be respectful let go of the expectations and judgments.
I have a 2hr minimum for new friends. After we have met i may be available for 1.5dates. I prioritize repeat friends and longer reservations.
Advanced notice is required for new friends, the time is need to plan and complete verification. 48hrs notice is at least ideal. The longer in advance I can plan, the better.
I am a compassionate person and often get the privilege of having intimate conversations with people. Please do not forget that
I am not a therapist. I am a spiritual sexuality coach and entertainer. Therapy can be helpful to many people that are having issues moving beyond past trauma or experiences. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength not weakness. Seek help when you need it but please remember this is not my realm.
If you would like to have ongoing email or phone conversations with me you will need to make a donation.
I know there are many people to chose from and I want to be sure we will be a energetic match. Doing your research and following the instructions on a providers site will ensure you have an ideal experience.
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Based in the Tampa Bay Area Florida
Visiting nyc June 26-July 2 2016
This morning my Website was down for a few hours for server maintainence
I am still here and we are back in action !!!
Sex coaching questions answered!
I have gotten a surge of interest in sex coaching recently. I am intending to
Feature this option in my blog for those that have questions or interest in the subject.
Sexuality includes out mind, body, emotions and spirit.
Orgasmic energy is the life force energy that flows through us and makes up alive.
Our culture and society tends to send us conflicting messages about sexuality through out our lives
It is understandable we have challenges along the way.
Sex coaching is a blend of sexology, sex therapy and coaching.
I am a coach! The difference is that therapy tends to focus on the past. Focusing on what happened then so you can move into the present. Therapy is a medical based model that pathologizes people in order to ‘fix’ them: Non/dis functional to functional/manageable.
Coaching is a process about moving forward! Coaching acknowledges the past, as it helps to shape who we are today. Coaches focus on the moving forward: now to future. Believing that you have the answers with in you it is just a matter of bringing them to light. Assessing the situation, clarifying the challenge, offering education and resources so we can create an action plan that helps you move forward in achieving your objective. My only intention is to partner with you and assist in navigating YOUR journey. All information is strictly confidential.
Here is a link to one of my adds for coaching on sacrederos.com
This add is focused on coaching and sacred sexuality. It is not an entertainment or companionship based experience.
I believe sexuality can be experienced from pleasure to spiritual purpose. There is a wide spectrum between these two ends.
(If you are interested in entertainment/companionship experience, simply select that option on my website for donations and information…taliaamour.com)
If you are interested in coaching and/or sacred sexuality experience, simply select the option on my website taliaamour.com.
Most of my coaching session are done over the phone. Skype is also available.
If you are interested in coaching: email me your basic challenges, what you hope to accomplish. Then we will set up a 20min complementary session to determine how I can help and if we will be a good fit to work together. Next I send you an assessment; we go over it on our first call to clarify objectives and make an action plan….
Hopefully this helps you understand some of what sex coaching is and determine if it is right for you.
Based in Florida
visiting NYC June 26-july2 2016
Video down Guess some one thought it was too much???
See for yourself….I am contesting them removing it so we will see what happens
Marc at eros films did a great job! I’m looking forward to the next shoot….aiming for fall!
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