Archive for February, 2012

Valentines Day thoughts on Communication skills

Author: taliaamour
February 15, 2012

Valentines Day thoughts on Communication skills

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I was never really too into Valentines day. I guess because I never wanted to be disappointed or get hurt. Looking back it seems as though I wasn’t able or willing to communicate with my partner enough to not be disappointed. I wasn’t able or willing to even risk/love enough to really get hurt.

Communication is so important. In order to effectively communicate with our partners, first we must communicate with ourselves. In order to communicate with ourselves we need to have a level of self-awareness.  Awareness of our own needs and desires. Awareness of our judgements and expectations of ourselves. Then we must have self-love and self acceptance of this. Learn to balance our self criticisms with self-love and compassion.

We communicate in the way we have been taught through life. Usually change only occurs when what we are doing is no longer getting us what we want. Most of the time this realization manifests in a form of miscommunication resulting in us or someone else getting disappointed or hurt. So we either learn something new to get what we want or keep doing what we have been doing and getting what we have gotten. The choice is ours.

theses are patterns we run.

grow or die

Interestingly those patterns we run keep us safe and hinder our growth.

It is more challenging to step beyond our comfort zone of what we know and jump into the unknown and unfamiliar. The holy jumping off point.

Well, I am a jumper!

I wanna grow!

That is where the risk is…if I love will I get love back? If I respect you do I get the same in return? If I share with you are you really listening? Are you hearing what I am really saying?

only if we are communicating in a way we both understand or are least willing to try

Over time I have learned more effective communication skills and decided to take more ‘risks’ with my heart and just love. The part of this that is huge for me was the acknowledging and validating my own feelings. Before I would hardly acknowledge my feelings in the first place let alone validate them. Its like these body sensations (feelings) are telling me something, they get my mind going. If I am aware I work through them and then I move on. If not I keep running the same circle over and over again, no thanks.

I enjoy variety, new experiences and learning new things. There for I am willing listen as well be heard. The journey along the way is what makes life interesting, those moments of realization, transformation, comfort and joy.

So Valentines Day should be every day, we should not save only one day a year to love and be loved, by ourselves or another. There is so much to explore!

I am not sure why this is what my post ended up being about but I trust its is supposed to be. So I hope everyone had a bissfull, decadent Valentines day. I know I did icon smile Valentines Day thoughts on Communication skills

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May I make you breakfast in bed??

Author: taliaamour
February 3, 2012

May I make you breakfast in bed??

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One of my favorite things to do in the morning after waking up slowly in bed,is to eat waffles or pancakes with fruit and nuts!

Today I couldn’t help myself!

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I made my

coffee (black,no sugar)

whole grain pancakes (with my vegan butter and Almond milk)






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Yes, Darling I can turn a bit domestic at times but let us not be confused, I am not a wife,I am a


Wanna Play???

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I love to be the ulimate naughty wife experience icon smile May I make you breakfast in bed??

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May I make you breakfest in bed???

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New Project: Documentary/video blog By Talia Amour

Author: taliaamour
February 2, 2012

New Project: Documentary/video blog

By Talia Amour

Over a year ago I started a video blog/documentary about my journey before during and after my ranch experiences. I have been wanting to do something with it for a while so I decided to find someone to help me.

I posted a job ad and got numerous responses. I presented my project vaguely hoping not to attract any weirdos icon smile New Project: Documentary/video blog By Talia Amour I found someone interested in working with me and we are going to meet soon. I understand they are great at shaping the story and that is exactly what I need, someone to help bring the story together. I am excited. Then,I got to thinking, it’s not just about my story it’s about a lot of people’s story.

There is such a strong taboo around being involving the sex/adult entertainment industry. Most of us face discrimination everyday from strangers or even the people closest to us. Individuals and groups can be discriminated against for all kinds of reasons. It is mostly some judgement in our heads we make up about some one or something that makes us treat them differently or think differently of them.

Over history the journey of valuing yourself, standing firm in your beliefs,regardless of adversaries attacks, has always been an inspiring story. Those are the stories that help us take a breath before we pass another judgement on ourselves and others. Those stories give us permission to embrace our own energy and let it shine.

Judgment comes in two forms:



All people judge and get judged even unconsciously everyday.

What would our lives be like if we were able to transcend some of this judgement of ourselves and of each other?

Is anything really




it just is.


I always try to operate from a place of nonjudgement but as a human I know I can fall unconscious just like any one else, but if we can get back sooner rather than later, to that place of nonjudgement,

release any shame,blame,guilt and anything else holding us back

we will all experience a more complete sense of balance and peace.

Each person has their own journey of personal growth and transformation. Every ones’ story is unique and inspiring in its own way. I just wanna share some of mine icon smile New Project: Documentary/video blog By Talia Amour I have a feeling that what I think my blog/documentary is about, is not really what it is about at all….I am excited to see what manifests!