Pleasure Potential, you are a work of Art

Author: taliaamour
April 1, 2018

Pleasure potential, you are a work of art

By talia amour

In business we always talk about somebody’s potential… Potential for leadership, sales potential, potential to rise within the company, Financial potential and on and on. Potential being defined as future possibility, possibility to develop, latent qualities or abilities.

They say anything great takes effort. Achieving potential takes effort. Sand has the potential to become glass, a piece of glass has potential to become a beautiful work of art. Without time and effort the sand will never become glass nor will the glass become a beautiful work of art. It takes imagination time and effort to achieve something amazing. It takes hope or faith that the vision is possible. 

Have you ever considered what your sexual potential is? or your potential to experience pleasure?

Think about where you were when you first started to have sexual experiences as compared to where you are today. I imagine that with experience and time, you know more now than you did then. The question is: has the experience and knowledge that you have now facilitated your Optimum potential for pleasure?

There really isn’t that many places to receive accurate sexual technique and health information. Through the internet we definitely have more resources but there is so much information out there. 

Our experiences also helped to shape our ideas values and beliefs around sexuality and sexual pleasure. We can even get misinformation and develop false beliefs about ourselves or others along the way due to past experiences. How do we know what the greater truth is for us personally?

First make sure that you have accurate sexual health education. Learning sexual anatomy and physiology is an important part of experiencing your greatest sexual potential. Understanding the phases of human growth and development, as well as aging, gives us a better perspective on our sexual potential for where we’re at.

Keep in mind that when you read or hear about sexual Peaks or Primes what is being referred to is your optimum reproductive phase of your life, not your potential for sexual pleasure.

Having a strong sense of your values and beliefs around sexuality gives you a wonderful starting point to explore your sexual pleasure potential.

It’s interesting how our ideas values and beliefs tend to change over time. The more we learn the more accepting and curious we become.

Sexuality includes your mind, emotions, Body, Energy and spirit. 

what do you need to know or learn so you can experience greater pleasure? 

what emotion or past experiences needs to be healed so you can embrace and accept yourself?

how can you connect with and get to know, your body more to experience intense sensation?

how much energy are you willing to invest into discovering your sexual and pleasure potential?

what beliefs are holding you back from your optimal sexual self?

While our sexuality so individual and personal it is also deeply intertwined with other people. We often don’t achieve amazing things on our own. It’s a collective effort it takes multiple pieces of sand to become glass. Once the glass is a beautiful work of art it takes someone to appreciate the work and witness it. 

Journal about your ideal sexual self, really visualize every detail. What does your ideal sexual self look like? What Behavior patterns do you follow? How do you feel? Who are you with? Where are you physically? What does it smell like? What do you need to let go of in order to experience something greater? What do you need to learn? Get detailed. Write it as if it is in the present; then take steps in order to achieve this vision. 

Allow yourself to Hope fantasize and dream. After all, where the Mind goes the body will follow.

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Crash course in men sexual functions: your top concerns addressed

By talia amour
I’ve been told 80% of solving the challenge is creating awareness around it. what you see, you can influence or control. What you don’t see or understand has the ability to influence and control you.

It’s important to note that when referring to sexual peak we are referring to the peak of biological function, not your capacity for experiencing satisfaction or pleasure.

Men have their sexual peak in the later teens: referring to the peak time of the flow of hormones. (For women the peak reproductive time is in their thirties) 

In 1999 jama released a study on sexual dysfunction it change the way that we speak openly about sexual functioning it was the birthing of Viagra and then came Cialis and Levitra used for maintaining an erection for men. This was all well and good for maintaining an erection but it did not take into consideration the other aspects of male sexual functioning. Sexuality and sexual function includes 

Mind

Body 

Emotions

Spirit

Energy

In coaching we prefer to use the terminology breakdown or concern vs. Dysfunction. I always recommend getting your annual check up and blood work done to rule out any biological factors that may contribute to your sexual concerns.

Here are the top sexual concerns of men:

Low desire: oftentimes low desire has to do with not having enough energy/being exhausted; low testosterone; side effects from certain medications. It’s best to eliminate physical possibilities first; see a doctor to rule out low T and other biological issues. 

Hot tips: reframe self-talk, work on increasing self-esteem, get additional education, get enough rest at night or take a nap if possible. Monitor intake of caffeine, sugar and other stimulants that could lead you to ‘ crash’ hours later
Early ejaculation: Sometimes men become aroused very quickly. They are unaware of each phase therefor lack the ability to control it. Often times you need to learn to tolerate pleasure. most of the time these men hurry in all aspects of their life. they often tend to be very type-a personalities. . 

Understand that orgasm starts before the ejaculation. The ejaculation is a physical response to the orgasm or orgasmic energy flowing through the body.

Another culprit could be sexual patterning: such as trying to ejaculate quickly in order to ‘not get caught’ (think masturbation) or trying to ‘hurry up and finish’ in fear that the partner is not truly enjoying the experience.

Hot tips: Learn to slow down and experience the pleasure of the moment. 

It’s important to take the judgment out of the challenge: reframe ‘early’ with ‘trying to control the release’ of ejaculation. 

Try to focus on pleasurable Sensations through out your body not only in the genital region, ride the waves of pleasure or in other words ‘tolerate’ pleasure.

Get to know the “sexual respond cycle”and the signs of each phase. (These were originally defined by masters and johnson in the 50′s: excitement, plateau,orgasm, resolution )

Find your ‘tipping point’ or ‘point of no return’ recognize when the inevitable moment of ejaculation occurs in order to control the release. 

There are many tantra techniques dedicated to this specifically,(ask me for more details it’s my speciality!) like the breathing squeeze, pressing at the base of the cock or at the frenulum. there are also certain devices like cock rings that could be useful, (I’ve even heard of extreme cases where antidepressants prescribed by a doctor).  

 A great resource is the book multi orgasmic man by Mantik chia.

If the spiritual aspect is too far out I suggest checking out the video, the maxwell multiple climax. The techniques are explained by a man, in a man words and in non-spiritual terms. The video as entertaining as well as educational.
Delayed ejaculation: often times they’re experiencing energetic orgasm/pleasure without releasing the ejaculation or ejaculating after they’re experiencing the energetic orgasm. There can be a few biological reasons this could happen: if you have had prostate surgery it’s possible that they may not have much ejaculate fluid to be released, there is also such a thing as reverse ejaculation ( where the fluid goes into the bladder instead of coming out of the penis) It’s important to rule out biological issues first! (Rare concern, I have seen twice so far, if you feel like you’re about to ejaculate and urine comes out instead: seek medical professionals help sooner than later. this could be an issue with the prostate. biologically speaking you are not supposed to be able to urinate while the penis is erect there is a valve in there that prevents this from happening in normal function) 

* Men who only have this challenge with a partner need to address trust issues and relationship dynamics that are affecting their sexuality. (Sometimes therapy is necessary for people to work through their trust issues before they can appropriately address their sexual concerns.)

People experiencing delayed ejaculation often are having issues with controlling their ejaculation it often can have to do with a fear of letting go….again trust issues.

they may believe they are losing some sense of self or sense of control. They may not feel safe enough or trust their partner enough to let go and experience pleasure.  

Hot tips: It is important to cultivate a feeling of safety and Trust so you can merge with your partner and experience orgasm. Explore concepts of intimacy and values.

Seek therapy if there have been traumatic experiences that are affecting your sexuality at present. Remember coaching is about being present and moving forward; therapy addresses the past in order to become present. Reaching out for help as a sign of strength. 

Sexual inhibitions and social/dating skills deficit: being ‘shy’ or scared to try something new; lack of experience or if you have had a disruption in your sexual development that has inhibited you from experiencing sexual pleasure or developing a sense of own sexual self. You need to understand the unconscious messages you are telling yourself and that the outside world has told you. Often misconceptions or misunderstanding that you have come to believe are ‘true’ may not be the ‘truth’.

Hot tips: consider an idea that you think is the ‘truth’ is not….such as the common misconception ‘women don’t enjoy sex’ the truth is that women do enjoy sex….another one may be that you think you are not a good enough lover, the truth is that you are good enough but maybe you have some techniques to learn or growing to do to reach your potential or ideal self.

reframing critical self-talk an continue learning and exploring your sexual self. 

We often ‘idealization’ or ‘objectify’ and need to ‘normalize’ and see people as people.  

Reduce the amount of time watching porn and get experience in the real world. Learn new communication skills. Know that porn can be a great addition to healthy sexual experience. But porn only captures the highlights and extremes, they are actors performing for your pleasure and enjoyment. In real life your sexual experience is not a performance and you will have to participate in all of the scenes before,in between and after, that are not shown on your favorite video.
Body image issues:Men often have body image issues just like women do: too fat, too thin, loosing your hair, aging…..one of the number one concerns is penis size! (the average penis is 5 and a half to 6 inches in length and usually around 4 inches in diameter. the majority of women will tell you that the girth is more important than the length. the flaccid penis is usually much smaller than a fully aroused and erect one)

Hot tips: focus on being healthy! Cut out sodas and fast food. Get at least 20to 30 minutes of exercise 5-6 days a week.

Find additional ways experience pleasure beyond penetrative sex, such as using your hands, mouths, toys or your mind by fantasizing. 

Penis enhancers are available. there are toys, herbal supplements (and in extreme cases surgery and implants). there could also be the elements of just accepting your body and loving it yourself as you are. 


Happy holiday season 2016

Author: taliaamour
November 28, 2016

Happy holiday season 2016

It’s great to be back in Florida the weather is beautiful and we are enjoying the upgrades at my in call!

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I’ve had a great time celebrating my success with new friends and a few that I’ve been so excited to reconnect with.

I even got to wear some of the beautiful gifts that I’ve been giving I am so grateful thank you so much you guys know who you areimg 4613 Happy holiday season 2016

I’m still hitting the gym and eating my plan but I’m definitely getting to enjoy the goodies I’ve been baking…

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You know I’m going to eat at some point, and I will most likely fees you too especially if you’re at my place lol

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I plan on spending much of the holiday season and the Tampa Bay area if you’re visiting Orlando or Sarasota or even Naples shoot me an email it’s close enough to where I can definitely plan a visit if you are unable to visit me in Tampa.

My girlfriend and I have been experimenting with sensual domination we have lots of fun things to share with you

I also I’m getting a renewed interest in sex coaching lots of people asking about early ejaculation to challenges having an orgasm. I will do a separate blog post on each of the topics so stay tuned. I also offer coaching sessions over the phone or via Skype if you have some questions or areas of interest you would like more information on. 

I’m excited to connect with you and celebrate the season don’t forget to keep an eye on my summer selfie gallery I’ve been adding pictures for your enjoyment

Is talia time! 

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