My big Why

Author: taliaamour
August 25, 2019

my big why
There is often a hierarchy in sex work. Strippers, escorts, low end, high end, legal, tantra… on my journey I have gotten to experience many sides of the spectrum. What I have learned is that there is a time and a place for all experiences. A person’s rate does not equal their worth it expresses the demand for their time and business model. 

I learned that entertainment and play is just as valuable as teaching and coaching. I thoroughly enjoy both. We are healed through play as well as coaching and tantra. They are just different avenues to reach people. 

Over the last 10 years of coaching and entertaining, I have worked with mostly men and couples. I started out with tantra and sacred sexuality focusing on premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. I have helped men connect to get out of their heads(quiet thoughts) and into their bodies(feel sensations), harness and control their sexual energy and orgasm. I have helped them get to know women’s bodies and women’s sexual response. They have gained confidence and knowledge that helped them have more sex and importantly more satisfying sex. 

I have also allowed men to experience their sexual selves without judgment and shame. We have had a lot of fun and shared much pleasure! 

 Along the way many men have opened up to me about their concerns and fear around dealing with masculinity and understanding women in and out of the bedroom. 

In the wake of this me too movement there has been a rise in fear around masculine energy. It has been framed as toxic and detrimental. This has harmed men as well as women. 

We have a lack of sex education and communication about sexuality as a culture. The time has come to bring the conscious divine masculine to clarity and shatter the toxic masculine image! 

Women and men have been taught opposite messages around sexuality. It is time to unlearn these harmful ideas, attitudes and beliefs. 

Both men and women are ready to step into their divine right to experience connection, pleasure and fulfillment. I am here to help you on this journey. 

The feminine and masculine are intertwined. We can not have one without the other. When one is harmed, the other is harmed; when one is healed the other is healed. 

I offer a variety of ways to connect. I know that I am being of service no matter how I show up in your world. As a lover, friend or a teacher sometimes those lines are blurred and we get more from an experience that we expected. That is part of what I love about working with sexuality. It is such a deep multifaceted subject that has value in all expressions. I enjoy connecting with people, sharing energy in many ways.

So if you want to have a great escape and play email me to plan a date! If you want to learn advanced sex skills I can teach you that too! If you want to learn more about yourself and how to express yourself let me know! 

I am going on a 2 part retreat in Costa Rica. The first one focuses on advanced sex skills and the second one is about building my coaching business. I have been focusing on this lately to expand my reach to help more people. 

I am here for the journey not just a destination. When quality counts it’s Talia time! When you want an experience beyond the usual it’s Talia time! 

Find me in the Tampa Bay area, online or on tour. 

Tour schedule
Taliaamour@protonmail.com

Twitter @talia_amour

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Visiting You, Ideas and Updates

Author: taliaamour
July 5, 2019

Hello Lovers! 

I sent out a email using my whereistaliaamour@gmail.com email 

I do not check this email often so if you would like to connect be sure to use my taliaamour@protonmail.com

If you would like to be in my mailing list email me with your location and email to use. I am not one to email often as I hate getting too many emails for a source in a short amount of time! So annoying! I will be respectful and not email more than 1 a month and probably less often than that as I update my Twitter, website and blog often.  You may save my email to address book so it does not go to spam. I will not use explicit language or photos (I do add photos but they are tasteful, sexy and not nudes)  as I know you will be opening emails in various places. 

Here is a version of what I just sent out:
I am writing to let you know I have updated my website with some travel dates and want to personally reach out to you so we can set up a date in advance and have something to look forward to!

If you do not see your city let me know and I may be able to add it to the travel schedule (thinking Chicago, Boston)

I am accepting reservations for all cities. A deposit is required to reserve your time, I accept venmo, paypal, zelle and amazon gift cards for deposits.

Just let me know which is best and I will send you the correct email to use. 

I have not picked exact locations in these cities yet. I know some areas of the cities are easier to get to and have better parking than others 

Be the first to set date with deposit I will pick my location according to what is convenient for you!

In other news…

As you may have seen on my Twitter, I am doing some market research for a coaching program I am creating. I am looking for men over 30 who think their p0rn usage is negatively affecting their lives or who identify as addicted to p0rn, or think they may have a problem watching too much p0rn. I am looking for a few more people to interview- it is a 60-90 min interview (depending on your answers) over the phone using free conference call. If you fit this description and would like to help me with my research please email me at taliaamour@protonmail.com 

Other dates to be aware of:

Sept 4th is my birthday! I am accepting donations for my coaching mastermind program I am attending or check out my ‘what new’ page on my website, for other gift ideas or donation/charity ideas.

Sept 4-14 I will be on retreat in Costa Rica with my Coaching group and mentors learning more about pleasure and turn on…yes more ways to make our time together EPIC!! 

August 4-7 2019 Atlanta

September 18-20 2019 Atlanta

Sept 26-30 I will be in AZ Scottsdale/ Phoenix area

Oct 10-13 I will be in NYC

Oct 24-28 Find me in the Denver Area
Nov 20-24 I will be in Austin TX

Dec 4-8 I will be back in Denver
All other times in between I will be in the Tampa Bay area…Orlando, Sarasota and Clearwater are not far. Visit me at one of my tour cities or Fly me to you! 

Special options for consideration:

I am seeing a need to offer some of my coaching services again in this area. Most of what I do through Talia is entertainment and companionship. However, if you have followed me for the past 10 years, you know I have a specialty in Tantra and S<x Coaching. I have the unique ability to merge my education and coaching skills with my entertaining skills. 

What does this mean?

You can have fun and learn something! 

Expand your skills in a fun, relaxed environment

If you want more confidence with women

I can help

If you want help with PE or ED

I can help

Do you want to know how to please a woman better?

I can help

Do YOU want better 0rgasms and more pleasure form your experiences?

Oh that’s me too!

It is one thing to read a blog post or book, or watch a video…it is another thing to get actual in person experience!

I have helped people over the last 10 years with the challenges listed above and even more! You get so much more from a real life experience rather than just intellectualizing it. If you are looking for more than just a good time let me know and I am happy to help you progress on your journey so you too can have the confidence and freedom to be yourself, knowing you will be accepted as you are.

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I can’t wait to see what the universe has in store for us! 

www.TaliaAmour.cuties-sites.com

Former TER:161678 always top 3 in Tampa

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www.sexcessfulljourney.com

Twitter @talia_amour
~Cancellation Policy~ 

~ I understand that life can interrupt with our plans. Should you need to reschedule our date, I’m happy to accommodate you within reason. Should you cancel any time within 48 hours of your appointment, you will be required to pay a 50% cancellation fee. If you cancel within 24 hours of your appointment, you will be required to pay 100% cancellation fee. 

If you cancel twice in a row I will no longer accept requests from you.~

~Thank you for your understanding~


Crash course women’s arousal and pleasure

Author: taliaamour
May 30, 2019

women’s #arousal and #pleasure 
One of the greatest challenges in #relationships is

unskilled/uneducated/unaware lovers and #communication breakdown.

It is no surprise these can be major issues. Many of us had a lack of accurate sexual health information available growing up and even as adults. There is little to no research done on women’s sexual pleasure and pain. (please donate to vulvalove.org) No one ever teaches us communication skills, let alone communication skills about sexual needs and desires. 

Many women often say no sex is better than bad sex! Especially if they are having trouble experiencing orgasm with a partner, if they have asked for what they want and are not getting it or simply don’t know what to ask for or how to ask.

Here are a few tips and recommendations for creating a more satisfying experience for yourself and your partner.

Have a consent or exploration conversation before you dive into any sexual experience. (especially with a new partner)

Make sure that she feels comfortable to communicate with you- *hot tip: Frame the conversation- Say out loud- there are no judgment or expectations and nothing will be taken personally, this is all just information…and mean it!

Many women are willing to try different things as long as they feel safe and not ashamed or judged by/with their partner, trust is of utmost importance! 

Guys: Don’t act out the porn you just saw unless you have had a discussion about it first. Porn is not real life. Porn is not sex education, porn is entertainment – you don’t see the before, in between and after care – it is only the hi lites for your entertainment. Porn can be used in a healthy way. However be conscious: when it has become your main source of turn on, only way you learned about sex and or viewed compulsively it can greatly disturb arousal, strength of erection/erection consistency, sexual response and relationships with other people.

Idea- Perhaps you could watch porn together then talk about the way it makes you feel and discuss whether or not it’s something that you would like to try together.

Remember- in the heat of the moment yes’ can become no’s but no’s can not become yes’. 

  (Side note: Even with an escort it is best to find out what they are comfortable with when you start the date (not via email, many companions will don’t discuss specifics via email for safety reasons) Just because you are making a donation for their TIME doesn’t give you permission to treat them in a way that they feel is disrespectful or unpleasurable to them.)

*hot tip: how to start a conversation ? You could say 

I’m really into XYZ are you comfortable with that?’ 

‘I recently saw this type of play and I am interested in experimenting. 

How do you feel/what do you think about that? 

 Would you like to try it with me?’ 

Tell me if I am using too much or too little pressure…

Does xyz feel good to you? 

Would you like more pressure than this or less?

What are your boundaries as far as kink?

What do you find pleasurable? 

What is not pleasurable to you? 

A little bit of communication even if it feels awkward, can guarantee a more satisfying experience for you both. Keep in mind the more you have these conversations the more comfortable they will become.

Please do not be offended if your partner has not had an orgasm with you or their whole life.

Most women take orgasm to make the man feel better about himself/not to hurt his feelings. (Some men’s self esteem and ego is greatly intertwined in their sexual prowess. This is a harmful message men receive growing up that I believe needs to be dispelled as it is harmful to men and women alike) 

If a woman has never orgasmed remind them they deserve sexual pleasure and you are honored to help them experience that- at their own pace. 

*possibility: There may be a misconception of what an orgasm is. Keep in mind: what you see in porn is not always how a woman expresses orgasm. (I know I have had silent orgasms, laughing orgasms, intense loud orgasms, shaking orgasms). There is a full spectrum of orgasmic energy and it comes out in many different ways. Don’t limit her. Just because it doesn’t look like you think it should, does not mean that she did not experience orgasm. Porn is exaggerated and dramatic for your entertainment, it’s just like any movie where emotions and actions are dramatize in order to get the point across. 

*recommendation: video-becoming orgasmic. 

It can be helpful to see how other women look during an orgasm that is not staged. Some women feel like they look ugly or weird when they have that big O. 

Give her more time to become aroused before direct genital contact. 

Encourage self pleasure and to go longer with self pleasure.

Did you know: most women take anywhere from 20-40 min to become fully aroused. 

Challenges experiencing orgasm may result from having a conservative family upbringing. There may be shame and guilt around sexuality. Maybe there was no privacy to even explore themselves. They may even have old patterns of orgasm and masrurbation that are challenging to integrate into partner sex….have no judgments and do not shame them. 

Did you know: 80 to 90 %of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. 3 out of 4 women do not reach orgasm from penetrative sex alone. 

New techniques may need to be learned. 

*book recommendation: She Comes First

Sexalogical body work is an option depending on where you live and the laws. 

Betty Dodson is a great resource for women to become comfortable with/get to know their bodies and orgasm.

Trusting their partner is a large part of experiencing orgasm as well. Trust is built by little things through the day and overtime. Doing what you say you will (having integrity with your words and actions) about little things helps to build trust. Call when you say you will, ask her about something she thought was important she shared with you. Being on time. I know it sounds silly but if you have integrity with little things it shows you will have integrity with big things. That creates trust.

It takes courage to be vulnerable and release control. Learning to/allow yourself to let go and relax and experience is a huge deal! Again this comes from discussing boundaries and respecting/sticking to them. 

One mee hot tip for you- 

remove the pressure/expectations around having an orgasm or an ejaculation! Come into the moment and enjoy the connection. Fall in love with the journey along the way unattached to an end result. That is when magic happens. 

Travel dates 

Pittsburgh may 25-June 1

Tampa June 2-9

Atlanta June 10-14

Tampa June 14- sept 3

Sept 4 is my birthday I will be going to Costa Rica for a Coaching Workshop. I would be very grateful for any gifts/donations to contribute towards this training. The dates are sept 5-13 so I leave on my birthday and get home on sept 14. 

Donations to my education can be sent to holisticprogressions@yahoo.com via P.P send money to a friend. I also have venmo you can message me for that info. Thank you in advance for your generosity and support on my mission to dispel the false belief that masculine energy is toxic. It is time to bring the Divine back to masculine! When we bring the Conscious Divine masculine we also bring Conscious Divine feminine. When we heal one we heal the other two halves make us whole.

Website link
Twitter @talia_amour

Email taliaamour@protonmail.com

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Pleasure Potential, you are a work of Art

Author: taliaamour
April 1, 2018

Pleasure potential, you are a work of art

By talia amour

In business we always talk about somebody’s potential… Potential for leadership, sales potential, potential to rise within the company, Financial potential and on and on. Potential being defined as future possibility, possibility to develop, latent qualities or abilities.

They say anything great takes effort. Achieving potential takes effort. Sand has the potential to become glass, a piece of glass has potential to become a beautiful work of art. Without time and effort the sand will never become glass nor will the glass become a beautiful work of art. It takes imagination time and effort to achieve something amazing. It takes hope or faith that the vision is possible. 

Have you ever considered what your sexual potential is? or your potential to experience pleasure?

Think about where you were when you first started to have sexual experiences as compared to where you are today. I imagine that with experience and time, you know more now than you did then. The question is: has the experience and knowledge that you have now facilitated your Optimum potential for pleasure?

There really isn’t that many places to receive accurate sexual technique and health information. Through the internet we definitely have more resources but there is so much information out there. 

Our experiences also helped to shape our ideas values and beliefs around sexuality and sexual pleasure. We can even get misinformation and develop false beliefs about ourselves or others along the way due to past experiences. How do we know what the greater truth is for us personally?

First make sure that you have accurate sexual health education. Learning sexual anatomy and physiology is an important part of experiencing your greatest sexual potential. Understanding the phases of human growth and development, as well as aging, gives us a better perspective on our sexual potential for where we’re at.

Keep in mind that when you read or hear about sexual Peaks or Primes what is being referred to is your optimum reproductive phase of your life, not your potential for sexual pleasure.

Having a strong sense of your values and beliefs around sexuality gives you a wonderful starting point to explore your sexual pleasure potential.

It’s interesting how our ideas values and beliefs tend to change over time. The more we learn the more accepting and curious we become.

Sexuality includes your mind, emotions, Body, Energy and spirit. 

what do you need to know or learn so you can experience greater pleasure? 

what emotion or past experiences needs to be healed so you can embrace and accept yourself?

how can you connect with and get to know, your body more to experience intense sensation?

how much energy are you willing to invest into discovering your sexual and pleasure potential?

what beliefs are holding you back from your optimal sexual self?

While our sexuality so individual and personal it is also deeply intertwined with other people. We often don’t achieve amazing things on our own. It’s a collective effort it takes multiple pieces of sand to become glass. Once the glass is a beautiful work of art it takes someone to appreciate the work and witness it. 

Journal about your ideal sexual self, really visualize every detail. What does your ideal sexual self look like? What Behavior patterns do you follow? How do you feel? Who are you with? Where are you physically? What does it smell like? What do you need to let go of in order to experience something greater? What do you need to learn? Get detailed. Write it as if it is in the present; then take steps in order to achieve this vision. 

Allow yourself to Hope fantasize and dream. After all, where the Mind goes the body will follow.

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sexual and porn addiction and compulsive Behavior patterns
By Talia Amour

http://taliaamour.cuties-sites.com/

As you know I offer sex coaching. There are a range of things that people come to a sex coach for. Sex coaching is a NON medical approach. It is an empowering process that offers sexual health information as well as coaching in a confidential, non judgmental atmosphere. We assess situations, help you clarify your goals and help you create action plans to achieve them. We do not diagnose and treat mental illness, we do not focus on the past or processing past emotions like a therapist would.

I have noticed a theme that many people have come to me with over the past few years and it seems even more prominent as of lately. I wanted to take a moment to share this with you and let you know that I have had a lot of experience around this topic and I am happy to be of service to anyone going through it or who has a partner going through it.

The topic is compulsive sexual behavior such as compulsive masturbation and over use of porn or acting out sexually. Some people refer to it as sex addiction or porn addiction. Addiction is the term therapy uses. Doctors are trained to diagnose and treat illness. ‘Addiction’ is the diagnosis they give you so they can send it to your insurance company and get paid for their services.

Coaches do not Medicalize the situation therefore we do not use or believe in the term ‘sex addiction’ or ‘porn addiction’. Our approach is that you are displaying compulsive behavior patterns or compulsive activities.

There are healthy ways to engage in sex, porn and masturbation. however if you are using this to avoid situations, avoid feelings or if it is causing you problems or negatively affecting your life then it needs to be addressed.

A lot of people ask me: how do you know if it’s a problem? Usually people that don’t have a problem, don’t wonder if they do. Only you can decide if it is a problem. There are some signs and questions to ask yourself to asses if your behavior is becoming an issue:

is your behavior negatively affecting your relationships with others? if so how is it negatively affecting your relationship with others? how you see others, feel about others, what you do to others? (specifically your partner or prospective partner)

Do you avoid interaction with people and/or no longer seek partner sexual activity and or connection I’m real life?

Are you having issues achieving orgasm without masturbation or without porn?

Do you have issues becoming aroused when you are not using porn?

are you choosing to masturbate instead of having sex with your partner?

Are you avoiding relationships because of your porn usage?

Do you experience guilt, shame or a feeling of disconnection or ‘let down’ after seeking out random/ anonymous sex or porn ?

are you experiencing erectile dysfunction with a partner but not when your watching porn

are you using as one night stands to avoid feelings or communication issues in your relationship?  

What negative consequences have you/do you experience due to your compulsive Behavior patterns?

If you have answered yes to many of these questions I’m happy to talk to you about coaching. We must first determine and clarify where you’re at; what’s not working for you. Then we can figure out what you would like to achieve and how to go about achieving it. Even if you are even questioning yourself, it may be helpful to talk to someone.
I have gone through trainings for life coaching sex coaching and I have experience with compulsive behaviors and Recovery. Sometimes within the coaching process issues arise from the past such as trauma abuse that have not been addressed. Coaching is not about processing Deep Emotions from past traumas, so there are times when I refer those specific issues out to a therapist. You can still continue the coaching process however deep-seated emotional traumas need to be processed by a therapist so that you can become present and focused on moving forward. Coaching acknowledges the past yet our goal is to create action plans to help you move forward and achieving your goals.

Many of the men I have worked with find success through coaching. All you need is the awareness, willingness and desire to achieve your goals. You are not broken, you do not have a disease! You are actually in a place of transformation and growth.

We all deserve to have a pleasurable, joy filled, loving, healthy sexual experience in this life.It is an honor to partner with you on this journey towards sexual health and fulfillment! 
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Happy holiday season 2016

Author: taliaamour
November 28, 2016

Happy holiday season 2016

It’s great to be back in Florida the weather is beautiful and we are enjoying the upgrades at my in call!

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I’ve had a great time celebrating my success with new friends and a few that I’ve been so excited to reconnect with.

I even got to wear some of the beautiful gifts that I’ve been giving I am so grateful thank you so much you guys know who you areimg 4613 Happy holiday season 2016

I’m still hitting the gym and eating my plan but I’m definitely getting to enjoy the goodies I’ve been baking…

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You know I’m going to eat at some point, and I will most likely fees you too especially if you’re at my place lol

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I plan on spending much of the holiday season and the Tampa Bay area if you’re visiting Orlando or Sarasota or even Naples shoot me an email it’s close enough to where I can definitely plan a visit if you are unable to visit me in Tampa.

My girlfriend and I have been experimenting with sensual domination we have lots of fun things to share with you

I also I’m getting a renewed interest in sex coaching lots of people asking about early ejaculation to challenges having an orgasm. I will do a separate blog post on each of the topics so stay tuned. I also offer coaching sessions over the phone or via Skype if you have some questions or areas of interest you would like more information on. 

I’m excited to connect with you and celebrate the season don’t forget to keep an eye on my summer selfie gallery I’ve been adding pictures for your enjoyment

Is talia time! 

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