Body Image Issues…

Author: taliaamour
December 19, 2011

Body
image issues….yes, even for the brave and beautiful.

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In the business of beauty, entertainment, sex
and seduction the obsession with appearance is only amplified. Our livelihood
is greatly dependent on our physical appearance and more importantly, the way
we feel about it.

We are too old, too young, too pretty, too
ugly, too thin, or fat, too aware; too ignorant….it just never ends, partially
because opinion is all based on perception and preference. That is why it is an
opinion vs a fact/truth. So, where am I going with this?? {No, not another rant
about my breasts or someone’s’ opinion of them, (thank you!)}; instead I have
been experiencing many comments around my weight/body type and it got me
thinking….All of
these words we use to describe physical appearance:

beautiful, sexy, sensual,hot, and handsome

are qualities that start from within. The way we feel about
ourselves is much more important than what other people think. When we feel
good on the inside we look good on the outside. The energy shines through us.  When we are blessed with a traditionally
aesthetically pleasing physical appearance our attitude and beliefs about
ourselves will either amplify our physical blessings or reduce them.

Regardless of how often we tell ourselves
‘other peoples’ opinion of me are not my business’ or ‘sticks and stones may
break my bones but words will never hurt me’ sometimes we still get our
feelings hurt or our buttons pushed. Most of the time we are our own worst
enemy, ourselves trying to keep us safe, lol, after all it is part of the human
experience.

For some reason our culture and society is
obsessed with weight and appearance. We idealize women with microscopic waists
and large breasts (which usually naturally don’t come together) and men with
abnormally athletic and strong bodies and a head full of hair. The reality is
that 80% of people do not fit our unrealistic visions of what men and women
‘should’ or do look like.

If most of us are aware that our ‘ideal’ man/woman is
not reality then why do we continue to hold ourselves to these ridiculous standards?

I have always been athletic and super active. I
have been able to maintain my weight and shape fairly well. I will also give major credit to my genetics, (Thanks mom and dad!).  With all of this taken into consideration I
still tend to fluctuate that 10lbs from time to time.

It is natural for people to have different body
types and to fluctuate in weight within those types. Weather it is due to
genetics, life situations or our ability and level of commitment to the
practice of sculpting our bodies through exercise and eating.  In the grand scheme of things I would think
this natural fluctuation is understandable and acceptable, if so then why do
others have to comment on every 5 or 10 pounds someone gains or losses??

When you talk with people who are overweight
for their body type most of the time they start off saying ‘I want to loose xx
lbs’ when you ask them ‘why?’ the answer has more to do with being healthy and
quality of living, not a certain amount of pounds or ideal weight. That number
represents something to them, that is what they want, what it represents. Interesting

So what does plus or minus 10lbs on my body
represent to you if you are questioning my weight?

That is what I wanna know. I do not even keep track of my weight because I know when I work out and lift
weights I gain weight. When I stop working out I lose weight. Then I imagine any combination in between so it does not really catch my attention if I step
on a scale and I am up or down with in my 10lbs, , I do not gauge my value by a
number on the scale or in my dress.  What
does catch my attention is when a lot of people start asking questions around
my weight in a short amount of time, due to a possible 10lbs; because it
creates awareness around an issue I do not usually give much notice and it
makes me wonder if my value is found only in that physical appearance. In
general I know that in my world the answer is, ‘yes it is that important’.
Although I tend to believe that even though appearance is what draws some
people to me in the first place, I know that is not what keeps them coming back
in the long run.

So my comments to those who are really
concerned about my 10lbs….get over it. All of my pictures and galleries are
dated so it is natural to imagine that I am looking like my most recent
pictures. If 10 lbs really make that much of difference, ask me where I am at.
I will not be offended. I will be glad you made a decision based on what you
know will make you happy. If you are happy, I am happy! If you are not sure do
not come visit me! I do not enjoy visiting with people who think I have to
‘prove’ myself to them. You do not have anything to prove to me. I want to be
with people that enjoy the way I look, and value what is on the inside too.

I create an environment where there are no
expectations, judgments and/or boundaries to hold us back. There for I enjoy
the same respect given to me.

Don’t get it twisted, I enjoy complements and
appreciation for my physical appearance because I know that there are so many
people out there and if someone enjoys me on the outside, inside or both, that
is a blessing! Also, I do work at it! I exercise, eat a specific diet and do my
part to accentuate my natural beauty with hair color and make up. If you like
what you see let me know! Bless me with your words, your money or both! I am
always gracious! Always!

Besides
as I was once told: ‘it is just as rude and hurtful comment about how I  am very thin; as it is to comment on someone being
very fat….do you tell fat people to stop eating that burger they are inhaling?
Hell no! Then why would you tell someone who happens to be thin to go eat some
food???’

Suck it bitches! I love me with or without
those 10lbs!

I am just a lover trying to love on you!

4 comments on “Body Image Issues…

  1. I always love your insight. I appreciate your honesty since you are in the business of being judged on beauty. As a woman I have struggled with body image issues like every other woman. But I realize when I am active then my mind feels great and my body is free. I am so ADHD about exercise lol, so my body changes with the activities I do.

    I find it interesting the physical forms I am attracted to are the opposite of me. I want an experience with someone different then myself. Sexual attraction is important but making a connection with the person truly makes the sexual encounter euphoric. So girl, who cares about a 10 lb gain/loss! as you stated that is not why people return. Which we are hoping to do in 2012! I love your NY photos!

  2. To measure beauty strictly by weight or dimension is a complete fallacy, but to say those things do not play a fact in attractiveness is just as erroneous. Some like big, some like small, some like short and some like tall. Some like red hair and some like brown.These are the the things that make the world go ’round.

    For each of us there is a combination of physical features that totally rocks our world, yet leaves the world of the next guy completely unaffected. However there are also certain common denominators that we all are attracted to. For example, the twinkle in the eye that accompanies a smile or a warm personality amidst a cold world. A soft touch from the heart or a certain energy that is infectious. No matter the packaging that these things arrive in, they are always a welcome gift. Whether they come packaged as a child, an elderly grandmother, the Walmart greeter or a beautiful model we as humans are instinctively drawn to them and our soul involuntarily finds them attractive.

    Trying to measure attractiveness is such a subjective task and is quite exhausting. The reality is once we truly experience ‘attractive’, our lives can never be the same. Physical beauty is fleeting at best, but those intangible elements of live last forever. To be able to connect with the intangible is one of the most beautiful gifts we as humans can enjoy. Those of us that have been able to experience both tangible and intangible attraction with the same human being even for a few moments are the most blessed.

    I’m blessed to have experienced that briefly with you

  3. Are you for real?? There are actually people commenting negatively about that fact that you have less than 10% body fat? Who besides an Italian grandmother does this?

    It would be one thing if you looked like a Somalian refugee that hadn’t eaten in weeks, but a quick glance at your recent photo shoot show a woman in remarkably good health.

    Enjoy being fit and lean and let the jealous haters suck it. And if you decide to indulge in chocolate and skip the gym for six months, enjoy that ride as well. Bottom line…Enjoy life.

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