Porn Problems?!

Author: taliaamour
November 6, 2011

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One of my friends sent me this article the other day http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2051902/Men-use-internet-porn-likely-hopeless-bedroom.html#ixzz1biCQqyVy about the effects of porn in the bedroom.

I read it and I feel compelled to comment about this. (First read the article because I am not summarizing it here ). Anything in excess is never good.  When people male or female, of any age, saturate themselves with pornography it is going to have some effect.

When we immerse ourselves in a world of fantasy it changes our perception of reality. Porn can be used to enhance our intimate relationships or enjoy some personal exploration. Unfortunately it is being used(consciously or not) to replace our intimate relationships and prevent us from maintaining and/or forming new meaningful ones. This abuse of pornography is having negative repercussions in bedrooms around the world.

The article focuses on the actual physiology and function of the brain/body when it is watching porn. It makes sense what they say…all I know is I have seen this epidemic in action. There are many young men in their 20′s and 30′s that are having serious issues experiencing orgasmic energy with their partners or even alone! First of all if they can even get a girl into the bedroom then what??? They can’t get it up! and if they can, it goes soft, have to violently jerk themselves off to achieve orgasm or they never experience orgasm or ejaculation at all. I am not making fun!!!!!This is serious!!!!! WE have few places to turn for accurate, relevant information on sexuality! 

{This is part of my life path, helping to get information and experience about sexuality out there. There are many others that have a similar path and we are now starting to come together. yay!}

From my experience, it is really about how we program our minds/bodies. We fall into sexual patterns based on our experiences. The big deal about this is sometimes our experiences don’t teach us the whole truth about us. We can fall into patterns that are not necessarily the most beneficial to us and not even know it! Awareness is the key! Get to know yourself first. Then you can share that with a partner…if you don’t know you how can they?? When we are aware of our patterns and tendencies it gives us the opportunity for change.

A mentor once told me ‘what you see you can control, what you don’t see controls you’. The point is you now have a choice.

We have a choice. To continue as we are and get what we have gotten….

or imagine that there is possibility…

try something else to get something different.

Preform an experiment on yourself with the porn thing and see what your sexual response pattern is while going through phases of porn saturation and porn starvation….notice your attitude towards people male and female. If all you saw/knew about sex was from porn what would you think/know??? How is that different from what real life experiences have taught you? Interesting isn’t it?

Fantasy will never be able to fulfill your reality long term, that is the point, its a fantasy not real. Fantasy is wonderful to enjoy, if it was all the time it wouldn’t be fun any more.

There are also communication skills that need to be developed in order to have a fantasy experience.What is the saying??? life is about preparation, being ready when the opportunity arises… when we take the time to see people as people and get to know them for who they are, a mutual respect and appreciation for each other is formed. With these kinds of bonds we are able to venture out into our fantasy world safely. If we do not establish the necessary connections before moving into the unknown it jepordizes the future of that relationship and our own ability for personal growth.

Give it to me again MC “it is easy to wake up, even harder to stay awake”

get it?1742 300x130 Porn Problems?!

 

One comment on “Porn Problems?!

  1. It is one thing I found interesting having learned to become more attuned to my mind and my emotional responses to things. Prior to visiting, porn I can honestly say was a drug and a powerful one at that. I mean I really had a intense fascination with it.

    Now having had sex and understanding that sex isn’t as big of a deal as it was in my mind at the time, porn is of little interest to me. Additionally my sexual fantasies have gone from rated X to rated PG. If it is an activity which is not realistically very likely to happen, it doesn’t tickle my pickle so to speak.

    Doesn’t matter either way, just interesting.

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